I am having a relationship now and the main problem I have now is that I don't have confidence in myself. I always find myself losing out and I always think that I am not good enough. How can I regain my confidence? Please help me!
confused girl
Dear confused Girl
I’m sorry to hear that you don’t have much confidence in yourself and feel that you are losing out. Has something been happening to make you say so?
Confidence comes from within. No one is good at everything, and we all have our talents. Do you know what your’s are?
What I could recommend is this, write down what are some things that you are good at, or believe you have a talent in. Try improving them, and make it your good strength.
Alternatively, take on some new courses, may be graphic design, sports or even computers. If you learn and do things that you can be proud of, your self esteem will surely grow :)
Why do my friends like to compare stuff with each other?
I'm in a single-sex school and all my friends like to compare themselves with the others.
Once they find you "oh biang'', or "outdated'', they usually avoid you and go along with
people that are "rich''.
What happens then is that people around get very jealous. Then, the whole class will start "bitching'' about each other on blogs. Quarrels go on in class very often.
I don't like to see all my friends quarrel with each other. What should I do?
thy girl
Dear Thy girl,
I’m sorry to hear your class complaining and bitching about each other on blogs.
What you could do, is speak to close friends individually about how nasty you feels this is getting, and that the bitching should stop. Speak your stand, which you feel that is’ not right to bitch, let people know your stand, and avoid making comparison’s about classmates and saying things behind other people’s back.
For all you know, some of your classmates are also not comfortable about all this unrest in class. When you step forward to make your stand against such bad mouthing of people, you will find other like minded people coming forward to join you. After some time, this matter should rest
