People have said that if someone likes you, you'll just know it.
"Somehow, you'll just know," they say. Well, I don't.
How do you know if a shy guy likes you when he's so shy, it seems like he isn't interested?
But yet it seems like he is, because we've been classmates for quite some time and I noticed many things about his behaviour when he's with me, like he likes to take pictures with me, and never gives an outright NO when someone asks him if he does.
Must I really make the first move? Please help!
not-so-shy gal
Dear “Not-not-shy gal,
I’m very happy for you, and you do sound very much in love.
Must you really make the first move? Well, my recommendation is to take baby steps. Make opportunities to have meals or do projects together. Let spending time with each other be enjoyable. When the opportunity arises, have some private time together like a walk to the train station or for movie.
Let nature take it’s course. You probably don’t have to make the first move, but helping to create the setting to enjoy each other’s company, and thing’s will flow naturally.
‘I’m retaking my O-levels... Help!’
I am 18 this year and retaking my O levels as a private candidate. I am studying on my own, which requires a lot of self-disclipine. However, at times, I feel left out and do not have the drive to continue studying for the exam at the end of this year. I need a source of motivation but I can't find any. I am struggling very hard to strive for the examinations. I don't know what I am going to do if I fail again.
Depressed Guy
Dear Depressed Guy,
I applaud your determination to move ahead and study hard for exams. Yes, it really takes a lot of discipline to study on your own. But writing to this column probably means that you are very serious and want to do the best you can.
What I would suggest is a few strategies you could take. (i) Let your close friends and family know what you are doing. Tell them over meals or conversations, your struggles and your progress. Over time, you will feel that many of them will be supporting you emotionally and physically with your exams. (ii) If your budget allows, enrol with a personal or group tutoring program. Having a tutor or peers with a same goal via group tutoring, helps you feel supported and provide guidance in your preparation.
I hope this suggestion helps. If you’re gunning for your O levels this October, you’ve got a good 5 months more, all the best.
