My parents split up a long time ago. Now my mother is dating someone whom I can't get along with .
He incessantly gets on my nerves and always thinks that he is right in every situation. He also always wants to get his way in everything and I have to suffer and give in to him to make my mum happy.
I try not to quarrel with him for my mother's sake. I know he makes her happy but he can be really annoying.
Should I talk to my mother about it or should I keep quiet?She's done a lot for the family and I do not want to upset her. Yet, he comes over so often and can be a real pain in the neck. Please advise.
Thanks!
nameless
Dear nameless,
Sorry to hear that your mother’s date is getting on your nerves. Your idea of speaking to your mum is absolutely sensible and probably the best move you can do. Tell your mum how you feel. You’ve mentioned she’s done a lot for your family, so I’m sure she’ll be mindful of what your feelings.
But as you have spotted, your mum is very happy with him, and you do feel that he can give your mother happiness. You’re really very kind and considerate to your mum.
So when you speak to your mum, pls share that your objective is not to drive a rift between your mum and him, in fact, say that you appreciate him giving mum happiness. But do share the examples what he is doing, that is causing you distress. With these examples, your mum could feedback to the gentleman.
I do hope things will come out fine.
Close friends won’t help me in studies
I'm a Secondary 5 student taking my O levels this year.
I'm all stressed out by my friends. They are all selfish when it comes to studies and they won't help one another. They are just afraid to lose. Even my closest friends.
I can't find anyone to help me in my studies and I feel sad that my friends are behaving in this way.
Help!!! =(
Depressed
Dear Depressed,
I’m very glad you are taking a early start to prepare for your O level exams this year.
You’ve mentioned that your friends are selfish and afraid to lose their exams, hence they are not helping. Did you all make some competition out of the O level examinations?
If you have, while a competition to study hard together is good, not helping one another is not the best way to support each. You may want to speak to your friends of your observation that you’ll like us all to work together for our O level’s, instead of denying help to each other.
Nonetheless, if you need help, sometimes, it’s not that your friends do not wish to help, but it might be because they do not know the answer? I hope you feel comfortable about approaching your school teacher, and perhaps, you can get some help in your preparation.
Once again, I’m happy that you’re starting early in your O level preparation. All the best.
