Is it wrong of me to like wearing female clothing?
Once, after a chalet, a girl friend of mine mistakenly took my bag home. I had no choice but to take her bag home. As I had no clothes to wear, since all my friends were girls that particularly day (I am the thorn among the roses) I had to wear ladies' clothing. So one of them let me wear her clothes since she was the same size as me (I'm quite skinny for a guy). However, her pants did not fit me and I had to wear her pink tank top and her white skirt home. As embarrased as it seems, I felt "great" wearing a skirt as I felt "freedom" in my legs. So ever since then, I like wearing skirts but only at home and to nearby shops. Is there anything wrong in me wearing ladies clothing as I also feel that ladies' fashion is more attractive than men's.
- A STOMPer
Dear STOMPer,
It certainly is a unusual occurrence you have there, to wear a ladies tank top and skirt on Singapore roads home. And you’ve done it a few times as you mentioned, going to nearby shops in skirts and such.
While there is no laws prohibiting a male from wearing a ladies clothing, social norms in Singapore do frown upon such a behavior. You may face much unpleasant attention and stares when you are out. There is also likely to be very strong negative responses from your family members should you chose to dress this way. Lastly, this may affect your current pursuits if you are student or your career pursuits if you are contemplating your career.
Should you decide to continue such a choice of clothing’s, you weight within yourself internally if your clothing preference outweighs the social cost that you will face for this preference.
I don't want my parents to be burdened
I'm finishing my polytechnic education soon, and I am not sure if I should go overseas for my
university education. My family is not super rich, but my parents have said that they are willing
to fork out that money for my education. On one hand, I really do want to go overseas for the
experience and also because I will complete my education faster than if I stay in a local
university. But on the other hand, I really do not want my parents to suffer the burdens of my
heavy educational fees. How should I go about deciding this?
- Edison
Dear Edison,
I’m very glad your mail to me was about the concern you have for your parents. That shows a very
mature side of you, and I’m very glad you are considerate to your parents' financial strain in
supporting you in furthering your education.
To your query, many overseas universities actually have financial schemes to help students with
their education. To add on, some will actually have a referral system or work permit aid to help
students apply for jobs while studying to finance their personal living expenses.
What you should do is contact these universities. Some have representative offices in Singapore
while others encourage you to email the school directly for a discussion.
Besides these options, you may also apply for a bank loan to finance your education. Speak to
your local bank regarding this, they might have something to offer you on their repayment terms.
With these information, do keep your parents in the loop of your choice and hear their opinions.
I’m sure they will be glad to know of your concern for them.
