Dear torn in half,

Why would you feel torn between your studies and your other half? Your better half probably loves you much as you do to him/her (I’ll use ‘he’ for simplicity). He would probably be mature and logical enough to understand the importance of studying for a better future that you both may possibly share.

Do spend time with him, but share with him important exams, tests, or assignments that are due. Let him share your effort to pursue a better grade. You may find that his concern towards your endeavour will actually strengthen the relationship further.

I’m sorry to hear that your friends may be talking behind your back. Fortunately, they are nice to you at least in front of you.  That opens opportunity to speak to them.

Have you ever observed that people with a bad habit or a bad breath is sometimes usually the last to know?  Take the guy who always eats garlic and keeps burping in class. Friends probably are scared stiff of talking to him, and he wonders why he’s unpopular.

What I would recommend is this. Find a friend whom you feel you can trust and is well connected. Speak to him of your concern, and ask for opinions. Use phrases such as “Do I put people off with some actions of mine that I may not be aware of?”. Listen to his recommendations. 

Be careful here. Many people fall into the trap of being overtly defensive here. They are unable to accept the comments, and think people are over reacting and emphasizing too much on one previous situation. And the more they try to defend themselves, the more anguish they feel. So listen to the comments, ponder over it, and try to work on.

I hope you  will find more friends soon :)